Where Does Self-Love Begin?

Hello and welcome back to The Post-It Note! Today we are talking about self-love. Why is it important? What is it? And most importantly, how can you practice it to increase your emotional wellness and maintain happiness in your life? But, before we get into it, I want to talk a little bit about why I’ve been MIA on here as well as on social media.

This past week was very difficult to get through, so I had to take some time away to deal with family matters and get myself together. Rose, my senior pup has been having a challenging time with her bladder, she’s been peeing blood every day and is having issues controlling her bladder. For the past few months, Dillon and I have been in and out of the vet trying to figure out what is wrong with her. We’ve spent thousands of dollars and we still have no answers as to what is wrong with our girl.

Our senior dog Rose with her teddy bear

On Friday we found out that she has transitional cell carcinoma, which is a form of bladder cancer rarely found in dogs. That was devastating news and Dillon and I were both distraught. On Saturday our vet says she “most likely” doesn’t have cancer and she probably has a really aggressive UTI. Insert confusion here.

Needless to say that we are both frustrated, possibly relieved, very skeptical and extremely concerned for Rose all at the same time. I’m really trying to be hopeful, but we are entering into two and a half months of no answers and a visibly uncomfortable Rosie.

Sweet Rose in her bandanna

I’ve been super overwhelmed and mentally and emotionally spent for the past few weeks and so this blog is defiantly needed as a reminder for me and hopefully you will find it useful as well!

First things first.

What is self-love?



Regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic)

Self-Love benefits the community

It is defined as a desirable form of putting yourself first, regarding your own wellbeing and happiness highly. As women and men, we have a responsibility to ourselves, the world and the universe to take care of one another, however this step begins and ends with ourselves first.

We owe it to ourselves to promote our own emotional wellness to our own advantage. Make no mistake, this is an emotional and spiritual journey of self-care, this is not an act of selfishness. Happiness begets happiness and that is a gift to the world, keeping this in mind, how could setting yourself up for success be negative or selfish?

Why is practicing self-love important?

A glass of water a day is an act of self-love

Anything that is going to benefit you in the long run should be developed into a routine that you work at every day. Self-love is no different. Self-love is an exercise and a daily promise and affirmation to choose yourself today and every day.

Creating a daily self-love routine to incorporate into your day can be as simple as saying positive affirmations to yourself while you are waiting for your morning coffee or even just drinking a full glass of water before you leave your house to start your day. It can also be more complex, requiring additional skill sets like meditating for 10-20 minutes a day or exercising regularly. There are so many ways where you can apply self-love practices in your daily life, you just need to figure out what is best for you.

My daily self-love practice is waking up at 4 AM to begin my day, meditating for 10 minutes, and having a cup of tea. There is another hidden feature in my self-love practice, I am also developing discipline, which is a skill that is very important to me.

Some other hidden features of daily self-love practice:

  • Gain confidence
  • Reduce stress
  • Become more compassionate
  • Become a more effective communicator
  • Become happier
  • Develop fulfillment
  • Create routine and discipline

And so much more!

How do I begin practicing self-love?

Self-love is doing things you enjoy

I get asked this question quite a lot when I’m talking about myself self-love journey. I find that people want to find emotional wellness and want to start putting themselves first, they just don’t know where to begin.

It’s quite simple, similar to beginning your fitness journey or starting a blog, you just have to start and you start by treating yourself like someone you care deeply about. You might laugh or scoff at that thinking “What in the hell is Jasmine talking about? I DO care about myself!” I absolutely believe you boo, otherwise why would you be reading this right now?

I’m trying to get you to act, to begin treating yourself like you treat your best friends, your boyfriend and girlfriend, even your crush. I want you to treat yourself like that.

Cater to yourself by making sure you are well slept, well fed and well hydrated. Make sure that you treat yourself to something nice every now and again. Stop yourself from reacting in difficult situations with unpleasant people just like you would with your hot-headed bestie who you don’t want to get in trouble. Start looking forward to spending time with you because you are the bomb dot com!

I think that we are all capable of this and it might feel a little strange at first, but practice definitely makes perfect! If you need some more inspiration as to how you can show yourself some love, be sure to check out my 50 Easy Ways That You Can Practice Self-Love for some great tips and a free download for your to hang up on your wall for constant daily reminders!

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4 thoughts on “Where Does Self-Love Begin?

  1. I’m so sorry to hear about your dog, I had the same feeling when my childhood dog started to get sick. But, this really was a beautiful post as self-love is so important! I’m wishing the best for both of you.

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    1. Thank you so much. This is always the difficult part about pet ownership, at some point they will pass and it will be devastating. I’m hopeful that we can figure out what’s going on with her


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