Taking Control of My Happiness Once and For All

Hello and welcome back to The Post-It Note! Last time I talked about how 30-days of no smoking and no drinking affected my mental, emotional and physical self.

Even though I finished the month, I decided that I still don’t want to drink and I’m pretty sure that I won’t be smoking any joints anytime in the future. Since I’ve cut out those vices, I can say that I’m enjoying this sense of presence and awareness that I’ve recently acquired.

They say that it takes 21 days for an old habit to break, but it takes 66 days to form a new habit. It’s also helpful if when breaking the old habit you adopt a new positive one, and for me, it’s really been writing and as I’ve mentioned in my previous blogs, it has become such a therapeutic outlet for me, so I guess you can say I’m halfway there.

This blog is not about creating new habits, it’s about breaking old ones. I’ve had a few questions since my last blog about what do I do when that craving to smoke hits me? Or how did I just stop everything, just like that? I’ll tell you, although, there is no magic cure, or detox concoction made up of water, lemons, and cayenne pepper. The answer is simple, but just because it’s simple doesn’t mean that it’s easy.

My secret? I talked myself out of the bad habit.

Whenever I felt the desire to go and buy weed or a bottle of wine, I told myself that the cravings that I felt are only temporary, they will pass and within a half a minute, they did. However, that doesn’t mean that they won’t come back, I’m only at 30 days remember!

For the times when talking myself out of it doesn’t seem very effective, I get to work. Blogging, reading, the dishes, laundry, whatever I can do to get my mind off of it. I’ve read that when you start a task you are more likely to get invested in it and that investment “distracts” yourself from those cravings. Honestly, these two methods have worked out really well for me.

While effective, talking yourself off the ledge and distracting yourself is only half of the battle. You have to have a purpose! What exactly are you fighting for?

I didn’t have a drinking problem and I wasn’t a drug addict. I wasn’t fighting for my life and I wasn’t so unhealthy to the point where a change was necessary. My goal was and still is to redirect my inconsistent behavior. I needed to create discipline in myself, something that I have always struggled with.

I can be really consistent with the things that are bad for me, drinking, smoking, too much television, but pathetically inconsistent to the point where it takes me months to finish one book. I am still reading Becoming by Michelle Obama, and it’s still amazing, but I need to finish it so I can move on to my next book.

I want to change my life for the better because I want more, my dreams and aspirations are huge. I’m tired of daydreaming about quitting my 9 – 5 so I can focus on being an entrepreneur and speaker. I’m tired of struggling financially and of not meeting my potential because I would’ve rather gotten high and binge-watched Supernatural all day.

I’m fighting for me, I’m making changes to advocate for my dreams and to turn them into reality, and to do this, I have to choose discipline, consistency and my well being above everything else, every time.

What are you fighting for? Let me know below!


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