Five Days of Reflection – Day 5: No More Resolutions

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This is the final post of our Five Days of Reflection series and I have learned so much about myself and also many of you who have commented on these posts! Before I get into my last post I want to share with you a few things that I have learned from this experience.

  1. The number one thing I have learned is that taking the time to truly and honestly reflect on yourself and your experiences is such a gift. It is like taking a crash course and the subject is you – learning is growing after all!
  2. Self-reflection is not easy. Period. You have to prepare yourself to be open to all possibilities of what you might find, this includes the best parts of yourself, as well as the worst parts. We all have things about ourselves that we wish we could change. Being able to self-reflect gives us that opportunity, as long as we are open to it.
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It is finally 2019 and with a new year comes new possibilities, new outlooks and of course, new resolutions. Resolutions are funny little things and I used to make them each and every year, and each and every year they all seemed to either:

a. Run together like a never-ending reminder of my failed accomplishments

and

b. I would have so many different resolutions that it was hard to stay focused and compete them.


So when the next year finally rolled around, I felt terrible about myself and completely overwhelmed because I couldn’t develop a paleo-strict diet, exercise for an hour 5x a week every week and love it, find my dream job, and pick up composting and pallet gardening. At one point this was my actual list for my resolutions for one year! Frightening, right?

Feeling overwhelmed with your goals?

I just thought up a list of things I wanted and piled them on top of the things that I didn’t get to the year before. It was chaos, pure and utter chaos.

I was tired of feeling the way I was feeling so I decided to stop the insanity and try a different route.

The New Method

The first step is to pick one thing that I want to achieve. It can be anything, as long as it is both reasonable and challenging.

For instance, I wouldn’t make my goal to read one book this year. This for me is an unchallenging goal that I can complete in a few days depending on the book, but setting a goal for myself to read 30 books this year is what I would call both a reasonable and challenging goal.

Can I do it? Definitely, but not without discipline and effort.

My next step is to really think about the “30 books in a year” goal. How can I achieve this? What steps would I have to take in order to accomplish this?

I will then set several smaller goals that not only align with the main goal but will also make it easy to build momentum to complete it.

An example of those smaller goals would be:

  • Read for one hour each day
  • Read two books a month (depending on the length of the books)

This is not something new that I have made up, it’s just a different approach to accomplishing my goals. I find that it works pretty well for me and this is the second year that I’ll be exercising this method.

My goal for the end of the year is to have two paid speaking engagements a month by December 2019!

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Do you like resolutions or are you more of a single goal setter like me? Let me know in the comments below!

33 thoughts on “Five Days of Reflection – Day 5: No More Resolutions

  1. I totally agree! Resolutions really make me feel bad about myself so I stopped doing it. It was just focusing on where I felt I was weak and didn’t really have a good action plan.

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    1. Hi Rachel, you can always try it this way. I felt the exact same way and I felt like last year I accomplished so much without the pressure. If you need assistance coming up will smaller more managable goals, I’d be more than happy to chat with you about it. You can send me an email if you like, no pressure though! πŸ™‚

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  2. I loathe resolutions. I stopped making them years back. I much prefer the idea of setting goals for things I want to experience or accomplish throughout the year, not just in January.

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  3. I do agree on it. Resolutions are funny little things, yeah but I stop doing it because for me if you want to do a change in your life you can do it even not new year.

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  4. I’ve been thinking about this too! I keep looking back at my kinda unrealistic “goals” for the year and get upset that I hadn’t done anything about them. This approach is what I’m leaning towards doing this time around. It starts with the small things!! Thank you for sharing your approach, your way of thinking will for sure help me & my goal setting this time around.

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  5. I love that you highlight the need for discipline and effort to achieve goals. I think a lot of the time people assume it’s just “saying it outloud” and doing things. I like to be more reserved in what my next step is. It helps me stay focused.

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  6. I’ve been vocal about this, and I have told almost everyone in my circle that I have no new year’s resolution. I will DO what I gotta DO this year, one after the others.

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