Welcome back to day three of the reflection series. The last two days revolved around learning to be content, regardless of what life throws at you as well as the power of friendship.
Today I’m focusing on my support system. These people are not necessarily my group of friends, although some are, the people in my support group holds many different roles. These people consist of friends, family, my boyfriend, and mentors that I look to when I can’t find the way myself. I believe that having a strong support system is one of the reasons why I am here today, focused and driven to better myself in all aspects of my life.
A support system is an essential component of a healthy quality of life.
First, what is the difference between a circle of friends and a support system?
I believe that friendship is attained through emotional connections between two people. Support systems are not necessarily friends and although they want what’s best for you, your support system is not always there to make you feel better. They are the ones that prepare you and give you tools to do the hard work to achieve your goals, whether your goals are personal or professional.
The people who are on my team are all smarter than me in one way or the other. They are book smart, street smart, tech-savvy, emotionally competent, and business savvy. I learn from these people and take mentorship from them.
I truly feel entirely grateful that these incredible people have taken an interest in me and also believe in something that I haven’t yet gotten a chance to see in myself.
I have used my support system to help me deal with professional problems that I have run into, like, how do I market myself properly using social media? How do I deal with a combative or disrespectful coworker or boss? How can I save $10,000? Or how do I tell someone that I love that their behavior is toxic?
About two and a half to three years ago, I met an incredible woman named, Nicole, who I was introduced to by a mutual friend. I wasn’t doing that well financially and had mentioned that I needed a second income, possibly a third. So my friend said she would arrange for me to meet with a woman who created and ran a fashion and styling app and since I had styling experience, I could possibly see if she had an opportunity for me.
I met with her over coffee and we talked for hours, I’m not sure why, but I felt super comfortable with this woman, whom I’d only just met, and told her about my dreams and aspirations.
Nicole told me that she believed that I had a fire inside of me and that it was bigger than my current job, bigger than even being a stylist for her. Her passion for what she saw in me, put me on a trajectory to entrepreneurship. For the first time, I believed that I could create and build something that wasn’t just for me, but that the world needed too.
Nicole is a big part of my life and I look to her as a guide of how I want to represent myself in business. Since that meeting, she has built an entire marketing company with a team of her own. I look at her journey as a standard of how hard I need to work in order to breathe life into my business.
Why is having a support system so important?
As I’ve mentioned before, I believe that having a good and well-rounded support system is essential to improve your quality of life. My support system helps to make me better and stronger and we all need people in our corner that say I believe in you, not because they are your friends, not even because they love you, but because they 100% do and will stand in your corner. These are the people that will vouch for you and also most likely bet on you.
Where can I find people to help support me?
Some of the people that are in my support group are friends, some are family, others are people that I met looking for a job and stayed in contact with, some are people I asked to be linked with.
You have to have an open mindset and be able to swallow your pride to say “I need help” and follow up with “can you help me?”
Who do you have on your team and how has their influence been beneficial to you?
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